Let me tell you about crazy lady from the park.
We have a neighborhood park. Like my neighborhood, it's off the beaten path and most people that visit the park are residents of the immediate area.
When we first moved here over 2 years ago I met crazy lady. She came right up to me, introduced herself and started in on her life. I quickly pegged her as annoying-woman-from-the-park and made the following note to self: Avoid. Avoid. Avoid. Now, I know that's not a very nice thing to think. I know that's not a very Christ like attitude, but I couldn't help it. I'm a highly social person. I love meeting new people and making new friends but I've learned to stay away from people who suck the energy right out of me with a single conversation. I knew right off the bat she was one of those women.
She told me she had 4 kids.
She expected me to be shocked and ask her how in the world she does it.
She told me she has a degree and used to work.
I'm pretty sure she expected me to be rather impressed.
We didn't hit it off.
Then I saw her at the grocery store. She introduced herself again and once again was shocked that I didn't fall all over myself with exclamations of wonder at the fact that she has 4 kids. Did I mention I have 5?
She didn't remember me from the park. I re-named her crazy lady.
3 more times I "met" her at the park. 5 times total I heard her story and 5 times total she didn't remember me.
The 6th time, I used the duck and cover method and that has worked for me ever since.
Last week my sister-in-law mentioned that she had met a woman from my neighborhood who knew me. She went on to describe crazy lady. I was flabbergasted. Crazy lady knew me? Cuz everytime we met it was like the first time. No recognition.
Then we ran into her together. Crazy lady recognized my sister-in-law right away. Guess who she didn't remember?
Yes, crazy lady, I've got it. You have 4 kids and you used to work. I'm still not impressed. And just so you know, I've never been that forgettable. But in your case, I don't mind being invisible.